Yesterday was the first time, in a long time, that my husband had to have the awkward conversation which begins with ‘so your wife must have had the baby’ and ends with that person feeling utterly embarrassed. We are resilient enough now to be able to talk about it without it being horribly painful but we do feel sorry for the well-meaning people who put their foot in it. They are people we rarely see, who are not connected to our friends and family. How should they know? It’s not their fault. Even worse was that his wife was pregnant and I don’t like to tell pregnant people in case it makes them anxious. Hopefully we will be able to tell them positive news soon.